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who posted this last week, motivated by Tuesday's being Transgender Day of Visibility.

Ask me a question. Anything you're curious about? Anything you don't understand but want to? There's one question on the list I feel strongly enough about to give you the answer for free; I think I'm comfortable answering all the others. Pick a number and comment or send a private message. If you'd like to ask me something not listed, I might not be able to answer but I won't be offended you asked.

I'm not engaging in gender critical discussions on feminism, transphobia, or hate, because ain't nobody got time for sadness.

I want to help people understand trans people better.

1. Has being trans been an obstacle in your life with friends, family, work, etc?
2. How long have you known?
3. What are your pronouns?
4. How did you pick your name?
5. What's your favorite dinosaur?
6. Why would you want to be a guy/girl?
7. What does AMAB or AFAB mean?
8. What do you feel like you missed out on most in your childhood (if you transitioned later)
9. What has been your favorite part of transitioning so far?
10. What worries you most as a trans person?
11. Does your family accept you?
12. How has transitioning changed your life?
13. What has surprised you most about transitioning?
14. What would have made it easier for you to come out?
15. What has been the hardest part of your transition so far?
16. How do you know you're trans?
17. How does it feel to transition?
18. How did you tell your family, friends, work, etc., tha?
19. Are you fully transitioned?
20. What's the hardest part of your experience as a trans person?
21. Why not just be a "feminine guy"/"masculine woman"?
22. How do you think your life would be different if you could have transitioned younger?
23. What is the best part about being trans?
24. Have you had any surgeries? Are you going to?
Please don't ask this of any trans person. Or anyone you suspect might be a trans person. It's only slightly less offensive than asking what's in their pants. (That one I'll actually tell you:. Right now I'm not wearing pants, so, "air". When I am wearing pants, the answer is "my legs, my crotch, and my torso up to my waist.") Not quite in the same league as asking what their crotch looks like. (I've got two answers for that one. If the asker doesn't strike me as the kind of person who can take a hint as to how out of line that question is, they'll get the cold and clinical "You aren't a doctor I have decided to have care for that part of my body, and we aren't having or planning sex with each other. And you just took yourself out of consideration for either role by that question." Someone who looks like they might actually get a clue may get "I'll show you mine if you show me yours.")
25. How can I make things better for you?
26. What are you most excited about in your transition?
27. What's non-binary?
28. What do you wish you could tell younger you, as a trans person?
29. What are you most excited for in your transition?
30. I want to ask another question / AMA

Date: 2020-04-05 06:53 pm (UTC)
verdande_mi: (Default)
From: [personal profile] verdande_mi
Since we are new friends, I feel I should certainly ask 3, and how about 25 and 26 also :)

Date: 2020-04-06 11:20 pm (UTC)
aome: (Default)
From: [personal profile] aome
Would you tell me how to pronounce your pronouns? :)

Date: 2020-04-13 11:45 pm (UTC)
aome: (thank you)
From: [personal profile] aome
Thank you!

Date: 2020-04-05 06:59 pm (UTC)

Date: 2020-04-05 07:26 pm (UTC)
shadaras: A phoenix with wings fully outspread, holidng a rose and an arrow in its talons. (Default)
From: [personal profile] shadaras
4 and 5! :D

If there's anything you wanna share about 28, that's always a question I find interesting to hear answers to.

Date: 2020-04-06 05:34 am (UTC)
From: [personal profile] chanter1944
25? Alternately, 4 as applied to your journal name, please. I have no right to know your RL name.

Date: 2020-04-06 11:26 pm (UTC)
aome: (trans)
From: [personal profile] aome
Oh, I'm nosy, and I also want to hear about stories other than my son's, so: 1, 2, 9, 14, and 28. You are NOT obligated to answer all of these, lol, but I'd be delighted to hear your answers to any of them. :)

Re: This took a while for me to write

Date: 2020-04-14 02:14 am (UTC)
aome: (trans)
From: [personal profile] aome
Thank you so much for your thoughtful and honest responses. I especially appreciate your description of how you felt growing up non-binary (although you didn't have the words at the time) because, as someone with a definite gender identity, that's hard for me to picture.

It seems like you have reached a place where you are comfortable with who you are, the hell with anyone else, and I think that's awesome. I hope my son can achieve that level of confidence at some point.

Re: This took a while for me to write

Date: 2020-04-16 12:10 am (UTC)
aome: All we have to decide is what to do with the time that is given us (all we have to decide)
From: [personal profile] aome
I also have a definite gender identity

I am really sorry. I really put my foot in it for that one. >_< Thank you for educating me. *bangs head*

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