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Initial post on what I'm doing here.
36. Are there areas of your life that you notice you compare yourself to others? Your body, your job, your friend group, etc.
Making comparisons of that sort feels harmful to me. If someone else is more like I want to be, or less like I do not want to be, I would much rather think "good on them", rather than have that be a source of envy. If someone else has less of what I value in my life, I would much rather consider how this lack interacts with their life -- or is even important to them -- than use it as a prop to inflate my own self-worth. I would much rather compare my life to what I personally want it to be (right now), and use that as a guide to drive my progress.
And then comparisions to others circle back again to, "At what cost? For what gain?" Everyone has their own metrics for those, and I want to get as much information as I can to guide my progress. I've looked into the abyss on the other side of those questions; the abyss looked back, and I decided not to go there. And I'm fine with that.
36. Are there areas of your life that you notice you compare yourself to others? Your body, your job, your friend group, etc.
Making comparisons of that sort feels harmful to me. If someone else is more like I want to be, or less like I do not want to be, I would much rather think "good on them", rather than have that be a source of envy. If someone else has less of what I value in my life, I would much rather consider how this lack interacts with their life -- or is even important to them -- than use it as a prop to inflate my own self-worth. I would much rather compare my life to what I personally want it to be (right now), and use that as a guide to drive my progress.
And then comparisions to others circle back again to, "At what cost? For what gain?" Everyone has their own metrics for those, and I want to get as much information as I can to guide my progress. I've looked into the abyss on the other side of those questions; the abyss looked back, and I decided not to go there. And I'm fine with that.
